‘Your child is not their test score DURING A PANDEMIC. It’s NOT an indication of how much you love them.’: Mom writes encouraging note to parents, ‘Love leads, learning follows’

“Take a child.

Now, remove them from their school campus, hardworking and compassionate teachers, and joy-inducing friends. Now, have them stay home and socially distance from most others for six months.

Have them do 2.5 months of spontaneous online instruction via platforms they’ve never used. Throw in approximately three months of a pandemic-plagued summer.

Have them return to learning, either masked and in-person or unmasked and home, and tell them this is unfortunately their ‘new normal.’

Now, give them a test. Give them a plethora of educational assessments while their heads are still spinning from the fact their lives have been turned upside down.

For those e-learning from home, have them test over Zoom at their makeshift work area in their house, while sitting in their bedroom or at their dining room table, while having internet connectivity issues, while their younger sibling tries to distract them, while their older sibling sits near them also testing.

Also, as the dog barks, the doorbell rings, and they attempt to ‘keep it together.’ Now, take their score and remember, truly, it means nothing. Something, I guess, but in the scheme of things, nothing.

It’s not the be-all-end-all. It’s one piece of the puzzle. It’s just a tool. Your child is not a test score. Your child is surely not their test score DURING A PANDEMIC.

With school starting for so very many across the country, and beginning of the year assessments being taken, graded, and those grades being sent home over the next few weeks, this is just a little reminder to parents:

What forever matters more than any test score your child receives—now or in the future—is your human(s) feeling loved, safe, provided for, and backed.

The learning will follow, but the love should lead.

Your child’s test score is NO indication of how much you love them, how hard they are working, or how hard you have been working alongside and with them.

But the end-of-the-day smile on your kid’s face, the one they can still muster up amidst a topsy-turvy world, IS a very good indication your kiddo and you are doing just fine.”

This story was submitted to Love What Matters by Nicole Merritt of Jthreenme, where the post originally appeared. You can follow her on Facebook, her website, or podcast. Submit your own story here. Be sure to subscribe to our free email newsletter for our best stories, and YouTube for our best videos.

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