‘It’s easy to pose for pictures, pick a filter, and get them posted. It’s not easy to admit when we’re on the rocks.’: Wife shares marriage advice, encouragement for tired parents

“It’s not easy to admit when we’re on the rocks. You’re raising kids and you’re the last thing on each other’s task list.

It’s easy to pose for pictures, pick a filter, and get them posted up on Instagram.

Not as easy to pretend you’re happy when your husband seems less interested and your kids are plotting against you.

Because who has time for playing tit for tat, or getting in the sack, when there are butts to wipe and order to maintain?

It’s less challenging to go to bed early, than to risk being touched by the partner we love. Because you’re tired of being needed or maybe, your breasts are still leaking.

You don’t share that loving gaze like you did when you were 25. You’re both exhausted with kids, work, and life at home in general.

But now, you don’t struggle over ‘how it should be’ anymore.

Because now, you know what you can depend on.

And you know every single time it comes down to ‘each other.’ He’s still the first thing you think about in the morning; she’s the family’s full-time director, dedicated and stitched together with grace.

Part of loving someone is understanding you won’t always like them. It’s accepting you won’t always be likable either.

It gets better with small battles, and even better with time. It takes commitment and growth.

You’re not just raising children, you are evolving, continuously raising each other up.

So, don’t fight without saying, ‘I’m sorry.’ Don’t go to bed without kisses.

Never leave the house without saying, ‘I love you.’ Especially now.

It’s totally okay to be on the rocks.

When the foundation cracks and your love still stands, you will see together, you’re made of stone.”

This story was submitted to Love What Matters by Wallflower Writing at Detroit Moms. You can follow her journey on Instagram and her website. Submit your own story here and be sure to subscribe to our free email newsletter for our best stories, and YouTube for our best videos.

Read more from Wallflower Writing here: 

‘This is not just love you easily or haphazardly fall into.’: Wife pens beautiful appreciation letter recognizing husband’s devotion

‘I’m the machine and he takes care of me. He’s the oil to our well-tuned ride. His devotion is the gasoline.’: Wife praises husband for selfless devotion

The Void Of Grief Remains, No Matter How Much Time Passes

‘She’s not a tally on the task list. She’s who I’m doing it for.’: Mom shares turning mundane tasks into magical moments for kids

Do you know someone who could benefit from reading this? SHARE this story on Facebook with family and friends.