‘Sometimes, they need to hear the okay.’: Mom reminds us ‘how frustrating it must be to always have your ideas turned down’

“Sometimes they need to hear the ‘okay.’

Instead of ‘no.’

‘Not right now.’

‘Maybe another time.’

Sometimes when I realize I’m already operating on autopilot or survival mode, I stop and ask myself, ‘Why am I even saying no?’

Do I even have an actual reason or am I just not motivated to say yes?

Sometimes the answer really needs to be no… but not always.

Like this morning.

It was raining and my littlest love was in meltdown mode because he wanted to go outside.

Without thinking, I started telling him that we’re not going out.

And after much protesting on his part, I paused to ask myself why….

Why not?

I had no good answer.

It wasn’t thundering.

It wasn’t even raining that hard anymore.

So, I changed my mind and said okay.

And he was SO HAPPY to step his little feet in the puddles and feel the raindrops on his head.

Instead of continuing the meltdown, we paused for a sensory experience and it was actually very nice for BOTH of us.

We couldn’t stay out long, and his protesting started up when we had to go back inside, but for a moment we shared a fun, rainy experience.

How frustrating it would be for someone to always turn down your ideas.

Sometimes they need to hear the ‘okay.’

It may not be the cure-all, but it might just create a few sweet memories along the way.”

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