‘Oh, how a boy needs his momma. This job is so much bigger than just keeping them alive.’: Boy mom pens emotional open letter

“Oh, how a boy needs his momma.

And that need goes much deeper than cooking, cleaning, and laundry.

Oh yes. The need is far greater.

A boy needs the prayers of his momma. Needs the respect of his momma. Needs the support of his momma.

So often I catch myself feeling that I am only needed for simple survival. For clean clothes or a fresh supper.

Sometimes I feel like all I’m needed for is to drive him around or to make sure he goes to bed on time.

Like he doesn’t really need me for anything other than to just keep him alive.

But that is simply not true.

Our boys need their mommas.

They need the back scratches, stern looks, and the small waves and slight smiles that their friends don’t notice.

They need our ‘I love you’s,’ our respect, and those hard moments as we slowly let them go.

A boy needs his momma to be happy when he is happy and sad when he is sad.

To make his favorite meal ‘just because,’ but also to teach him how to clean it up when he’s done eating.

To take a step back when he needs space, and to be available when he doesn’t.

They need us to embarrass them just enough to keep them on their toes, but not enough that they truly dislike our presence.

To set boundaries and keep them. But also, willingly trust him as he gains more freedom.

Oh yes, this job of being a boy mom is so much bigger than just feeding them, doing their laundry, and keeping them alive.

A boy needs his momma to speak so much love and life and Jesus into him that the darkness of the world doesn’t put out his light.

To not just pray for him but to also pray with him.

To set an example of how a Godly woman lives.

To see us acknowledge our own flaws as we show them the importance of continually striving to let Jesus’ grace cover us, save us, and transform us.

Oh, yes, a boy needs his momma.

A need that is so much bigger than just keeping them alive.

And his momma needs her boy just as much.”

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