I Became A Different Person After My Husband Died

“I became a different person after my husband died. I was was still me, but a new and improved version.

There’s something that happens inside you when your world is flipped upside down.

Woman in red coat holds one of her children while putting flowers on her late husband's casket — Courtesy of Nicole Fergesen

I became more empathetic, more caring, and stronger in my convictions.

I became bolder to stand up for what is right.

I became a voice for the voiceless.

I stopped caring to keep the peace if it meant sacrificing something important.

You no longer can deal with other people’s crap. Life is just too short. Relationships matter more. Words matters more.

You realize down to your bones how short life is.

You can never get back what you’ve lost, but you can let it change you for the better. Or you can be a victim of your circumstances.

So, are you going to let that thing that happened in your life make you bitter? Or make you better? Because you can chose.

I chose better. What is your choice?”

Remarried widow looks reflective while sitting on her bed in a white t-shirt and jeans — Courtesy of Nicole Fergesen

This story was submitted to Love What Matters by Nicole Fergesen of West Des Moines, IA. You can follow her journey on Instagram, Facebook, and her blog. Do you have a similar experience? We’d like to hear your important journey. Submit your own story here, and be sure to subscribe to our free email newsletter for our best stories.

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