‘How are you supposed to bring this baby into the world without his dad? We’ve never experienced something like this before.’: Pandemic mom shares plea for patience

“Unless you’ve had a pandemic baby, you won’t understand.  

You won’t understand what it’s like to have such joy in the midst of such turmoil. 

You won’t understand what it’s like to wonder, day in and day out, what your situation will look like when the baby arrives. Will your parents get to be there, like they were for all their other grand babies? Will your husband get to be there? How are you going to do this alone?

Unfortunately, you have to come to terms with the fact that your parents won’t get to visit at the hospital. You pray to God your husband gets to be there, once you hear the rules have changed. Are the rules better or worse?

‘They are allowing the fathers, or one support person, but not if you have to have a C-section because there isn’t enough protective gear.’

You’ve never feared a potential C-section more, because how are you supposed to bring this baby into the world without his dad there? He’s just as much a part of this as you are. He’s already been excluded from appointments and missed ultrasounds. It’s his first baby too.

Unless you’ve had a pandemic baby, you would not understand. 

Unless you’ve had a pandemic baby, please do not complain about the ‘rules’ put in place by the parents. 

Unless you’ve had a pandemic baby, please do not complain about having to wear a mask around my baby. We are just trying to keep our precious pandemic baby safe.

Unless you’ve had a pandemic baby, please do not tell me that it is not real. We do not know. We have never experienced something like this before. Maybe it will be over in November, maybe not. People are sick, that is the truth. And I am determined to do everything in my power to keep my precious pandemic baby safe.

Unless you have had a pandemic baby, you cannot tell me how you would react in this situation. YOU DO NOT KNOW, unless you’ve had a pandemic baby.  

So please, try to understand. Please make it easier on those of us with pandemic babies. Please protect yourself in public. And if you get the opportunity to hold a precious pandemic baby, wash your hands, put your mask on, and appreciate each second you are getting because we don’t have to share our pandemic babies.

We don’t want it to be this way. 

We don’t want to not show off our baby.

We don’t want to have him covered when walking through a store, not being able to hear people tell us how cute he is.  

We don’t want to be unable to take him to church in fear that one of us will get sick.  

We don’t want to stay away from family or friends.

We want to be able to visit with you and introduce you to our pandemic baby. Please be patient with us as we try to navigate this new normal and do what we feel is best at this time.  

We just love our pandemic babies, and we thank God for them everyday.”

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