‘For a long-time people have said, ‘Your wife is very lucky to have you’ or ‘I hope I find a man who treats me like that.’ It really irks me.’: Husband says it’s not about luck but about not settling

“For a long-time people have said, ‘Your wife is very lucky to have you’ or ‘I hope I find a man who treats me like that’ and truth be told, it really irks me.

You see it’s not me who chooses how she gets treated. And it’s certainly not her luck. It’s about knowing your own worth and never being willing to accept anything less. That’s all it’s ever been. Because I’m nowhere near the person some of you make me out to be.

The minute I was rude. The minute I wasn’t proud talking about her or our family and the minute I showed any inkling that I wasn’t willing to put in the effort required she would let me know it wasn’t good enough. She wouldn’t cop it. And she would push me to become better.

And don’t for one second think that if I turned out to be a piece of crap after 10 years that she would stay with me either. Because she wouldn’t.

House. Finances. Kids and all. She would still respect herself enough to walk away. She knows her own worth and I’d be out on my ass before I could ever reduce that.

So, let’s not teach our daughters that finding a man to respect you is about luck. Because it absolutely isn’t.

Don’t settle for less people.”

This story was written by Brad Kearns of DaDMum. The article originally appeared here. Submit your story here, and be sure to subscribe to our best love stories here.

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